THE BEGINNING OF A UNITED HOME

When planning to get married never you look at the beauty of the person you want to marry. Always look inside to see if he/she deserves you. Beauty is not what you are getting married to, that is why you must choose wisely the God's help. You may not get exactly what you want, but it may be closely to what you want. It is your duty to change what you get to what you want. This is why many of us still remain single and some get married and get what they do not expect because we want who is beautiful, ballance and whatever. We should not alway be attracted to pleasure but quality, your main focus should be on what you will offer the marriage to succeed not what the marriage will offers you. This question you have to ask yourself; why am i marrying this person? Would i live to the expection? What should i do to make this person happy? Am i worthy of this person? What should i do to keep my home alive? if you really want to be happy in your marriage as we all know that happiness is the major concern in marriage. Today many peopl are fun of reporting every issues they encounter in their home to their parents, this is strictly wrong, if you are fun of doing this you are exposing your marriage/home to danger. I am not saying you should get your parent out of your life, they are part of your life, what i am saying is that the issues between you and your partner and solve between you and your partner no outsider should be involve. if think of reporting the issues between you and your partner to your parent, ask yourself this question, as my mother ever report my father to me? Or as my father ever report my mother to me? If no then there is no reason for you to report your husband/wife to your parent, if you do you are inviting more issues to your marriage. Remember the wife/husband may not be what your parent want but what you deserve by reporting issues you encounter in your marriage to your parent will result in separation. And in whatever you encounter in your marriage keep violence away from it God hate violence in marriage and there is punishment for that-Zephaniah 1:9, Psalms 11:5, this why mose people fails in marriage and some end up in divorce. Some parent are fun of reporting their husband/wife to their children this is wrong and parent who do are not worthy to be call parent because they are sorrounded with kiddies knowledege and attitudes. I am not judging any one neither to bring any home down but we must adobt this fact that our family issues should be resovle within our family not in the market, school, road, office, court or any other place than your home if you form a group to discuse your home, dont be supprise when your home becomes a talk of a town becuase you ask for it by gatherring people to discused your home. I meet a lady who vows to remain single becuase of her experience and she was using her parent as an example and she was trying to narrate how parent use to involve themself in fighting, quarrel, malice and ther sort of evils i was tempted to cry because most of our parent have porlute their childrens, mind some don't care to correct thier children when they are wrong instead they encourage them to do more, this is why most of our wives cannot cook good food some don't care doing anything at home all they need is hous help why because of how we where brought up (lack of training) read Proverb 22:6. Some husband leave everthing to the wife this wrong, husband help the wife in the kitchen, even cook, wash and do other things we are all helping ourselve and by doing this we are of good example to our children and our children will definitely adopt our life style. Lets put our priority wright, let put violence and anything that causes violence out of our home if we want to live happily. God bless us all in Jesus name.